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Motivation Monday April 23, 2018 Social Media: Friend or Foe?

Me before Social Media, circa 2001.   (hahaha I couldn't resist. Matison Card at my First Communion...barf. Can you tell how unenthused I was about religion?)

Me before Social Media, circa 2001. 

(hahaha I couldn't resist. Matison Card at my First Communion...barf. Can you tell how unenthused I was about religion?)

            Last week I skipped out on my weekly motivation blog post because I was traveling back from Coachella Weekend 1 and didn’t want to put out anything that wasn’t well thought out or ready to be shared with the world. After ping-ponging around in my head as I barely made it through security on time, I decided against typing out a half-assed Monday Motivation post at 11:37 p.m. at LAX just to get it out “on time.” I won’t half-ass anything anymore, it’s full ass or no ass, all the time. Alright you caught me, it's always full ass... what even is no-ass? I digress. I’ve come to realize that art can’t be rushed. Life can’t be rushed. Absolutely nothing in nature is rushed and yet everything is always completed when, where, and how it's supposed to all along. With the internet and social media playing such a huge role in the way we create and relate to each other, I can’t help but wonder if some of the artistic magic is being lost due to this constant need for more new content. Not necessarily good content, just more, more, more. Ladies and Gentlemen, The Age of Instant Gratification meets Social Media. AKA The Death of Art As We Know It.


          Okay, okay, yes, I am being extremely dramatic, and I obviously recognize that social media has allowed so many like-minded people to connect and create together, BUT it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Let’s not forget that social media is NOT a portfolio, social media is NOT reality, social media is social media- a highlight reel of a person’s “life” or perceived “life.” In today’s blog post, I challenge you to take a step back and ask yourself, “Have I been making life decisions based off of what I see on Instagram?

           And if the answer is yes, “Has this decision making process been conscious or subconscious?”

         “Do you think it is healthy to make major life decisions based off of what you see other people (potentially strangers) doing online?” (More often then not, what it looks like they are doing, not what they are literally doing. Highlight reel remember.)

            I myself utilize social media platforms to get more exposure and connect with other creatives, however I did not start my modeling and acting career on Instagram nor do I intend to shape the face of my career because of it. Separation is key here. I have detached from the online realm as much as possible without losing focus on my outreach and networking through such platforms. It is a tricky tight rope to walk, but it is absolutely crucial in this day and age. I’m not telling you to delete all your social media platforms and go completely off the grind or anything (although I would probably fall in love with you instantly if you did), but I’m also not telling you to dive so deep into social media that you don’t even know what you actually like anymore, you’re just mimicking what trends you’re seeing online (subconsciously or consciously.) As cliché as it is, balance is key here. Pay attention to your tendencies and emotions surrounding social media. Does it empower you to keep pursing your dreams? Wonderful! Keep following those accounts and become inspired to live YOUR most authentic life. Feeling like you’re not enough or wishing your life looked different? Get off the internet, find your passion, and GO FOR IT! Stopping stalking those girls online who seem to have it all and go create your dream life for you! Right now! You are literally the only person standing in the way of your true happiness.

Motivation Monday April 2, 2018 New Month, New Responsibilities

This morning I woke up to my cat and a much larger neighbor cat fighting in the window well nearest to my bed. I jumped out of bed in a literal panic, scooped my beloved fur baby into my arms, and slammed the window shut before the other cat could get inside. Both cats were okay, but I found myself shaken- still sleepy and heart racing. In this moment, I remembered that today was my first official day as Manager of TGS Collective. Monday smacked in the face with an impressive right hook. 

The earliest Easter I can remember passed in a flash, just like that a new month appeared, and it happened to be the official welcoming of my birthday month. (Yes, I am one of those people who celebrates who for an entire month.) Despite all the wonderful family time and positive changes in my life, it all seemed to be out weighed by the fact that I (to be frank) now had a shit ton more work, responsibility, and to-do lists than ever before. As manager, I am in charge of interviewing all future collective members and deciding their fate. *insert evil laugh* All jokes aside, the collective already has 400+ members AND has more than 200 new applications every month. All of this on top of continuing my modeling and acting career, launching a new jewelry collection, dropping my first merch clothing line, releasing my first self-written album, AND writing a movie. Honestly, if I think too hard I bet I left some stuff out that I'm doing too! If it's creative I do it... Hence, my minor freak out this morning. Those pesky thoughts of self-doubt and worry sure do love to pop in when you're seeking growth and opportunity. 

"How will you ever be able to step up to the plate?"

"Are you sure you're ready for this?"

"You're only 23, can you really co-run a business AND do everything else you've already committed to?!"

Sound familiar? We all have these thoughts from time to time, but the trick is not giving them the power. Repeat after me: I am not my thoughts. I am not my emotions. I am the observer. 

Today, like every other day, I had a choice.  A choice to believe a passing thought that I might fail or to dive straight into my fears and trust fall. Trust fall into the reality of my choosing. I like to take on the perspective of the observer. By detaching from my thoughts and emotions, I am able to see how fleeting they truly are. I am not my feelings or my thoughts or even my body. I am the soul observing and experiencing it all. My body is my vehicle guiding me through this life. What a relief to not be every single thought I've ever had about myself or others. What a relief to not be defined by my current emotional state. With each thought and emotion, we are given the opportunity to learn a lesson. If we do not learn the lesson, then the same opportunity or "problem" will keep manifesting in our life in different forms until we receive the message. See how perspective plays a big role here? The same event could be a tragedy for someone and an awakening to another. We chose our own reality. It's a shame that so many would rather be in a painful situation that is familiar than to trust fall into a new reality that is scary because it's new and unknown. 

The beauty is that you get to decide, every single day, if you're going to live in a loving reality or in a fearful one. 

So which do you decide? 

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Photographer: Sterling Reed

MUA: Kyrsta Morehouse

Jacket: Boda Skins